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Chrism Mass Address - 18th March 2008
I hope that you will forgive me if this evening I share with you something of what I believe it means to be an ordained minister of the Church, to be a priest. In a few short months’ time I shall retire, not as priest but as Bishop of Sheffield. At Easter my dear friend Bill Ind, the Bishop of Truro, also retires. We have become close friends over a long number of years and last month he invited me to lead a day’s conference on Healing and Wholeness. At the end of the day he preached at the Eucharist and told this story. Among the many things that had been said about Bill leading up to his retirement, the thing he valued most so far, he said, was a letter from a man whom he hadn’t seen for forty years. At the age of 23 this man had succumbed to cancer of the nose, as a result of which he had to have his nose removed, and it was about this that he wrote to Bill to thank him for the visits at that time which changed his life. Bill, he said, was the only person to visit him and look at him. He thought he was unbearable to look at, that he was ugly, that he was different, that he was outcast. Simply by looking at him, Bill included him. To Bill he wasn’t ugly or outcast, but still enfolded in love, still human, still precious, still included.
Whatever one thinks about the ministry of Jesus and what it meant, there can be no doubt about one thing: Jesus included those whom others excluded. Not only did he look at the leper, he touched the leper. Whatever one thinks of the long, drawn-out saga about the death of Diana Princess of Wales, one thing I believe ought to be remembered is that in the days when AIDS created hysteria and its victims became the lepers of the 20th Century, Diana Princess of Wales visited and touched them.
At home I have a shelf containing about ten books, each of which has been formative in my journey. One of them is entitled ‘Go between God’, by Bishop John V Taylor. It is a book about the Holy Spirit and ends with the following story:
“A colleague has recently described to me an occasion when a West Indian woman in a London flat was told of her husband’s death in a street accident. The shock of grief stunned her like a blow, she sank into a corner of the sofa and sat there rigid and unhearing. For a long time her terrible tranced look continued to embarrass the family, friends and officials who came and went. Then the schoolteacher of one of her children, an Englishwoman, called and, seeing how things were, went and sat beside her. Without a word she threw an arm around the tight shoulders, clasping them with her full strength. The white cheek was thrust hard against the brown. Then, as the unrelenting pain seeped through to her the newcomer’s tears began to flow, falling on their two hands linked in the woman’s lap. For a long time that is all that was happening. And then at last the West Indian woman started to sob. Still not a word was spoken and after a little while the visitor got up and went, leaving her contribution to help the family meet its immediate needs.
That is the embrace of God, his kiss of life. That is the embrace of his mission, and of our intercession. And the Holy Spirit is the force in the straining muscles of an arm, the film of sweat between pressed cheeks, the mingled wetness on the backs of clasped hands. He is as close and as unobtrusive as that, and as irresistibly strong.”
To look, to touch, to include is I believe at the heart of a priest’s ministry. As Thomas Merton said, God has many names, but if he only had one it would be Compassion.
Do not be afraid of friendship, love and affection. It was the greatest of Sheffield priests, Alan Ecclestone, who said that one of the greatest challenges to the Church at the end of the 20th Century is to understand just what Jesus meant by friendship. In our society, closeness and friendship have been hijacked by talk about sexuality, political correctness and fear. Life is risky and complex, but Jesus approached life unafraid of being misunderstood. He said, “greater love has no one than this, that they laid down their life for their friend.” He called his disciples friends and one in particular was known as the beloved disciple.
Recently I came across a poem about friendship, written in Latin in the Middle Ages, to the Abbot of St Gall by his friend. May I share it with you:
Then live, my strength, anchor of weary ships, Safe shore and land at last, thou, for my wreck,
My honour, thou, and my abiding rest, My city safe for a bewildered heart. What though the plains and mountains and the sea Between us are, that which no earth can hold Still follows thee, and love’s own singing follows, Longing that all things may be well with thee. Christ who first gave thee for a friend to me, Christ keep thee well, where’er thou art, for me. Earth’s self shall go and the swift wheel of heaven Perish and pass, before our love shall cease. Do but remember me, as I do thee, And God, who brought us on this earth together, Bring us together in His house of heaven.
Dear friends in Christ, I think that says it all. But, I must add one more thing. For a priest, friendship must also involve letting go, for friendship can too easily slip into possessiveness and, as has been said, “possessiveness kills, it clings so closely to the creature that he loses sight of the Creator”. Priesthood is about friendship and letting go. I learned this very early on, at least in theory. One of the other books on my life-changing shelf is one which I read as a teenager. “Naught for your comfort” by the then Father Trevor Huddlestone of the Community of the resurrection is the story of his time in the midst of Apartheid-ridden South Africa. He was forced to leave South Africa, the country he had loved and served for many years, and as he sailed out of Cape Town he wrote these words:
“Spiritual writers spend quite a lot of time talking about ‘detachment’. The lives of the saints are full of instances of this virtue, which indeed is a vitally necessary one in the Christian life. But generally the impression that such writers give is of a negative and cold quality: a refusal to allow oneself to become “attached” for fear lest in some way such attachment would mean a base disloyalty to Christ. No doubt there are souls who, for their own protection, must eschew all human affection if they are to cleave to God in purity of heart. I am not one of them. For me, detachment is only real if it involves loving; loving to the fullest extent of one’s nature – but recognising at the same time that such love is set in the context of a supernatural love of God. Then, when the moment of surrender, of parting, comes, one has a worth-while offering to make: an offering which is the love and affection of all the years, for all those one has known; it has some meaning, like the precious ointment poured out on the feet of Christ. And it is costly too.”
That is the cross which comes with priesthood. Amen.
+Jack
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